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I Love You More

by Carly,

If there is one thing I want my children to know without a doubt, it would be that I love them. I think it is the base for everything as a parent. You want your kids to feel that you love each of them no matter what.

The picture is from creative commons – attributed to D Sharon Pruitt

I love all my children the same. I always wondered how this would be possible before I had them.  I just felt this amazing love for them all. But sometimes it is tricky to let them all know how equally I love them when I give my attention to one of them at a time for different reasons. I never knew how difficult this would be until now. They are getting older and so competitive for my attention!

My five year old is full of drama, and says the most hilarious things whenever I am complementing her sisters. Lets say my seven year old just sang a really  cute song. I say to her “That was so pretty! I loved that!” My five year old then says with her hands on her hips. “Oh mom than you think I am a horrible singer, and you hate me, and you don’t want to be my mom anymore!” I shockingly look at her in disbelief.  “Your sister was singing a song, when you sing a song I will complement you”.

This juggling of compliments keeps me tongue tied all day! There has to be another way.  I try to give my girls more individual attention. I make it simple and sometimes just a cuddle on the couch is enough to end the compliment controversy. My five year old likes me to be vocal about things she does. We often play the I love you more game. I say to her “I love you.” She says “I love you too.”, then I say “I love you more.” her next comment varies with adorable made up numbers and words like zillions and trillions. My favorite one she says is “Mom I love you a hundred eight nine calories.” I have no idea where she got that but I love how clever she can be.

I guess all we can do is try our best to let our kids know every day how much we love them. The tough part is to have them not keep score!

What do you do to let your kids know you love them individually?

Carly is a contributing writer for Mommy Moment. She has 3 very dramatic but beautiful girls ages 7, 4, and 1. Carly loves to write, cook, and connect with other moms through this crazy thing called blogging! See what she has been up to over at www.livingthescream.com

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Alex

Thursday 4th of November 2010

Unfortunately, I'm one of those children who was not a favourite. My brother was. My parents claim they didn't have one and don't have one but their actions speak louder than their words.

Even if you know you're showing equal amounts of love to your children, if one feels you aren't, it's very real to them.

Good luck in keeping the peace and giving equal amounts of your time, compliments and love :)

Living the Scream

Wednesday 3rd of November 2010

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Wednesday 3rd of November 2010

Oh I sympathize. There is no way I can possibly give the amount of compliments I think my girls deserve! I have started putting them to bed in 15 minute intervals so that I can use that time to sit on their bed, share a little story and say "I Love You" with no distractions. I rotate nights so that nobody feels that they are getting shown favorites.Great post!