When I had my first child I loved to find other mom’s with babies my daughter’s exact age and grill them with every question imaginable. Some of the questions went like this:
When did your child walk?
Can they drink from a cup?
How many words are they saying?
With every answer I would fall deeper into worry about how my child compared to theirs, why wasn’t mine walking? Why hadn’t my child cut her first tooth? Why was her daughter already reciting the pledge of allegiance while doing cartwheels? Mine can’t do that yet! It became a constant worry in my mind if my daughter was measuring up. It was definitely a slippery slope that did nothing but stress me out,and as a new mom we are already sleep deprived and worried sick about our children, why add all of that extra unnecessary stress?
I found a lot of wonderful advice in an article titled “Don’t compare your kids to others” at body+soul by parenting expert Michael Grose. He mentioned three reasons why we shouldn’t compare our kid’s with others.
1. Kid’s develop at different rates.
2. Kid’s have different talents.
3. Parents can have unrealistic expectations.
This information is so true! Everyone is so different in this whole entire world. Why would we all complete the same tasks at the same time? It just does not happen and there is nothing wrong with that.
Since having more children I have stopped comparing so much and started enjoying more. Just learning and loving the personality our children have and what makes them original is a lot healthier way to think. The milestones we worry about all end up happening when the time is right for each of our children so why worry endlessly about it?
Do you ever play the compare game? What do you worry about most when it comes to your kids?
Have you seen this COMPARING BABIES CARTOON?
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