My two oldest daughters are a little more than two years a part. I love that they have an automatic friend and confidant. Even though they fight they do get a long well most of the time and I am glad they have each other.
As they are getting older though I am noticing something starting to happen. They have different friends and different things going on in their lives and they have a hard time dealing with it.
Recently they have each had the opportunity to do things that the other one has not. School field trips, play dates, birthday parties and so on.
They take it pretty hard. Tears and the work’s and often the phrase “Why does she get to do that when I don’t” all of the time. I try to make it a teaching moment. Just like how when it is one of there birthdays it is not everyone’s birthday. We all get have special things going on in our life at different times.
I do not have a sister so this is all new to me. I never cared when my brothers did things that I did not get to do because they were boy things. Being the youngest and the only girl I did get accused of being spoiled quite often as well, which I will neither deny or admit to. My Husband is an only child so he has not dealt with this either.
I want to teach my daughters to be happy for one another and to not always have to be the one in the spotlight. Things are not always going to be the same for everyone. All of our lives are so different.
But I have the feeling that lesson will not be learned overnight.
What are ways you teach your children to be happy for one another?
Carly is a contributing writer for Mommy Moment. She has 3 very dramatic but beautiful girls ages 7, 5, and 2. Carly loves to write, cook, and connect with other moms through this crazy thing called blogging! See what she has been up to over at www.livingthescream.com.