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BUILDING RESILIENCE AND SELF ESTEEM IN YOUR CHILDREN

The best gift you can give your child is the gift of self-esteem. It is important that we as parents are fostering their self-esteem while ensuring that they are emotionally resilient.

When our children grow up and go out into the world, we want to make sure that they are prepared with the appropriate emotional and mental tools to be able to thrive.

building self esteem in kids

BUILDING RESILIENCE AND SELF ESTEEM IN YOUR CHILDREN

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EXPOSURE

Children can develop resilience by being exposed to different things. Sometimes we just have to allow our children to participate in activities that we know they may fail at in the beginning. (I’ll share an experience about my daughter and swim lessons in the last point of this post).

Children need to be exposed to situations like this to help them build their resilience and endurance. These situations allow them to know when they have to bounce back and try again. Not only will this help them to build resilience but when they try again until they succeed, this will also build their self-esteem.

ENCOURAGE THEM TO BE VOCAL

Encourage your children to be vocal about their feelings. It is important that you take the time out of your day to hear what your children are really saying. Listening intently can not only help them to feel comfortable speaking out but also give you the tools to really hear and understand what they are saying.

Take the time to connect with your kids so you can aid them in ways to tune out any misunderstandings.

DON’T ALWAYS PROTECT THEM

Whew, this can be a tough one! It is certainly common for parents to want to protect our children from things that may make them feel upset or unhappy. Unfortunately, it just does not work to to bubble wrap your child.

Help your child focus on the things that they are good at but also encourage your child to participate in activities that may be difficult for them to complete. Our daughter struggled to pass level 3 of swim lessons. She had to repeat the level 3 times! It was hard and at times she wanted to give up but now she is in level 7 and really enjoys swimming. She knows that as long as she tries her best and has a good attitude that is what matters most.

Building Resilience and Self Esteem in Your Children

Don’t try to shelter your kids from all daily stresses, instead, give them to the tools to deal with them in a positive manner that will make them feel better in the long run. This will help them to build both resilience and self esteem.

Raising kids can seem difficult but as long as you are helping them to learn how to do things for themselves and to have confidence in their own abilities, you will be raising resilient and happy adults.

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Tara Gauthier

Thursday 11th of January 2018

This is so important. Our son has anxiety issues which only exacerbate his challenges during what is already a tough time in High School so we work on building him up lots.

Laura Nickles

Friday 5th of January 2018

Now it seems more than ever the importance of helping our children build reliance and self esteem. Child can be so cruel. I don’t remember it being so tough when I was younger

Jennifer Wilson

Sunday 31st of December 2017

Resilience in itself helps builds self-esteem. When you learn that failure is a part of learning, and you can do so without getting discouraged, your self-esteem will grow naturally.

Wayne Couzens

Sunday 31st of December 2017

We make better children when we can get them to believe in themselves

LisaM

Sunday 31st of December 2017

It's harder on kids who don't fit the "norm" - the girl who loves sports or the boy who loves to dance. Sigh.